Wiggling my toes

Nakedness is a condition I’ve been thinking about a lot lately, as a writer and as a person. I am not naturally guarded. While I can be shy sometimes, it results in a hesitance on my part – a momentary distance – not a wall. People reach across the space I create all the time, […]

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The Enemy is Me

Last month, I read The Artist’s Way by Julia Cameron. I’ve blogged about it many times. It’s one of those books that can change your life, as hyperbolic as that sounds. It changed mine in big and small ways. I know I read it in September because that’s when I started writing morning pages, one of the […]

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Out of the picture and off of the screen

Here’s a truth about online communities – Twitter, Facebook, even the blogosphere. It’s easy to leave. In real life, it’s not so easy. Unless you’re going into the witness protection program, there are things you need to take care of before you exit. You have to pack your belongings, for instance, maybe sell a house, […]

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What I Believe

Over the past year and a half or so, I’ve taken up yoga, dabbled in meditation, pored over books about getting quiet inside. I not only read but practiced The Artist’s Way by Julia Cameron and, on the recommendation of a Buddhist friend, I’m reading A Path With Heart: A guide through the perils and […]

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Her short skirt…

On Monday night, I watched a screening of V-Day: Until The Violence Stops, a documentary about how Eve Ensler’s Vagina Monologues became V-Day, a global, grassroots movement to end violence against women. It is a moving, harrowing, beautiful film. I can’t imagine anyone watching it and not being affected. As you might expect, the film […]

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The Last Help j Monday

It’s the last Monday in January, which makes it the last day I’m going to ask you for advice. Ever. Promise. So I’m cheating. I’m asking for your go-to item… in five categories. Five pieces of advice for the price of one. (But don’t feel like you have to do all five. Jump in wherever […]

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I’m not sorry

I’m noticing how much women apologize. Generally speaking. Anecdotally, I’ve noticed this. (It’s j-science.) At the beginning of 2021, standing at a personal crossroads, I wrote this down on a piece of paper and put it on the bulletin board above my desk. “I want to lead a less apologetic and explanatory life.” I wrote […]

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Putting it out there

Earlier this month when I went to hear Chris Edgar talk about his book, Inner Productivity, he said something that struck home for me… uncomfortably. He was talking about procrastination, and he said it is often on our most important projects – the ones with the most pressing deadlines, and sometimes even the ones about […]

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I’ve always been terrible at that.

I am fascinated by koans. For this post, I looked up the actual definition. From Dictionary.com: A koan is a puzzling, often paradoxical statement or story, used in Zen Buddhism as an aid to meditation and a means of gaining spiritual awakening. Recently, not for the first time, this koan caught my attention: What did […]

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Helping… what’s her name.

Time for me to ask you for advice. But first, let me just say that you were all amazing last week when I asked for movie suggestions. I have 49 new movies in the queue! You guys rocked my Blockbuster world! Let’s see if you can do it again. Now that I’ve decided not to […]

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